I think keeping an open mind is the key to growth in any area. And, you should be proud of your 40 pounds! The point is that you get to the end game, one slow step at a time. I'm glad that the semi-rude but very truthful doctor was able to help you set your sights a little higher. I'm also glad that you changed your diet so well. It's funny how we mostly know the right things to do, and yet, many of us still do not begin to do them until something bad happens..
We all need several honest people like that in our lives to keep us going.
ConnieB
· 1 year ago
Wow - you lost 100 pounds, I mis-read that. Good for you!
deepali
· 1 year ago
I like this doctor. It's great to lose weight, but only in the sense that you're moving towards an overall goal. But the goal shouldn't stop at weight loss, just like it shouldn't stop at debt payoff.
i think some people need it, but I hate head-patting. I need the cold, hard facts, doc.
Allese
· 1 year ago
Thanks for such a great post. I really appreciated you sharing your experience with that doctor. The other day I chatted with a mentor like woman about really intense competitive feelings that arose around certain people. She replied, that I should only compete with myself. I found this really helpful. It's similar to what the doctor was saying to you.... it doesn't matter what other people are doing, what matters is that your doing the best you can. That's sounds cheesy but I find to be really true. If I am doing pretty good (my standard made by my comparison to others) I often won't push myself to do much better, even though I potentially could. Thanks again!
asithi
· 1 year ago
I think the source of conflict between my two younger sisters and me are the listening part. They are not interested in listening to any advice I give them (especially financial advice). My husband and I looks like we are "poor" when compared to the external trappings of my sisters with their constant consumption of new cellphones, toys, and designer handbags. But we never worry about money and we go on at least two vacations a year.
At this point, you are probably thinking maybe I should try listening to them? But sometimes I can only listen to so much about new toys, clothes, and how much money they are planning to spend (WBTW, they do not have), that I just want to roll my eyes and walk away. Makes me wonder if I was like them when I was in my early twenties.
Curmudgeon
· 1 year ago
Relatively minor, compared to your story, Steve, but I finally got the dental floss religion when a hygenist gave me a big chewing out for not flossing regularly. My dentist wasn't happy with her, but I needed the kick in the butt to do what was good for me. As I learned from The Marathon Man, never argue with the one who holds dental instruments in your mouth :) .
@Asithi - Live in a way that makes you and your husband happy, not your sisters. You don't have to please them; only yourself.
Bubelah
· 1 year ago
Congrats on loosing 100 lbs!
RC@ThinkYourWayToWealth
· 1 year ago
You are spot on with #1- You are not always right. It is hard sometimes to realize it when you are interacting with someone and open your mind to their point of view-but it is certainly true. I know I could improve my interactions and probably learn a little more if I would think about that more often.
Four Pillars
· 1 year ago
I love praise and I hate criticism.
On the health care theme - I've been seeing my dentist for - forever...he's a nice guy and pretty good about doing all the work necessary but he always has some sort of compliment at the end of the appointment which I always makes me feel better. It's usually the assistants who give me crap and inspire me to work harder on my teeth. :)
Mike
deepali
· 1 year ago
Haha @ the dental hygienist stories. That was so me also. BUT what I noticed really helped wasn't a hygienist who scolded, but one who was kind of sarcastic about it. When I said I hated flossing, he started making semi-jokes about how tasty pureed food is....
Louis & Joel Kestenbaum/Fortis Property Group to purchase State Street Financial Center.
Fortis Property Group is leading the “Northeast-based private real estate investment group” that has agreed to acquire the 1 million-square-foot State Street Financial Center at 1 Lincoln Street in Boston for more than $880 million, or $880 per square foot, according to sources familiar with the sale.
The Brooklyn, NY-based Fortis, which includes Louis and son Joel Kestenbaum, and a group of other New York investors are expected to close on the 36-story office tower from a joint venture led by American Financial Realty Trust (NYSE:AFR) and an affiliate of IPC US Income REIT by the end of this year or early 2007.
Fortis apparently set its sights on Boston following several high-profile Dallas deals where it agreed to pay about $280 million for the three-building, 1.4 million-square-foot office complex known as Galleria Office Towers in Dallas. Earlier in the year, Fortis teamed with Trimarchi Management, also from New York, on the nearly $100 million acquisition of two other Dallas office properties, Harwood Center and Saint Paul Place. It also invested in the $282.5 million purchase of JPMorgan International Plaza in Dallas.
The addition of State Street Financial Center will build out Fortis’ portfolio considerably. The privately held firm headed by CEO Jonathan Landau is controlled by the Louis Kestenbaum family. Fortis manages some 3 million square feet in commercial properties and about 454 residential units.
American Financial, a Jenkintown, PA, REIT decided to formally shop the 36-story tower in the last couple of months. The company is pruning its portfolio and repositioning itself. The REIT paid $705.4 million or $688.84 per square foot in February 2004 to acquire the property. Later that year, it sold a 30% stake to an affiliate of Canadian REIT IPC US Real Estate Investment Trust, for $60.3 million.
The building is fully leased with triple A credit tenant State Street Corp. occupying most of the building under a lease that runs until 2023. State Street also leases the property’s 900-space garage on a 20-year triple-net lease.
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We all need several honest people like that in our lives to keep us going.
i think some people need it, but I hate head-patting. I need the cold, hard facts, doc.
Thanks again!
At this point, you are probably thinking maybe I should try listening to them? But sometimes I can only listen to so much about new toys, clothes, and how much money they are planning to spend (WBTW, they do not have), that I just want to roll my eyes and walk away. Makes me wonder if I was like them when I was in my early twenties.
@Asithi - Live in a way that makes you and your husband happy, not your sisters. You don't have to please them; only yourself.
On the health care theme - I've been seeing my dentist for - forever...he's a nice guy and pretty good about doing all the work necessary but he always has some sort of compliment at the end of the appointment which I always makes me feel better. It's usually the assistants who give me crap and inspire me to work harder on my teeth. :)
Mike
An interesting website to help with #5 is http://www.global-mindshift.org/
:-)
Fortis Property Group is leading the “Northeast-based private real estate investment group” that has agreed to acquire the 1 million-square-foot State Street Financial Center at 1 Lincoln Street in Boston for more than $880 million, or $880 per square foot, according to sources familiar with the sale.
The Brooklyn, NY-based Fortis, which includes Louis and son Joel Kestenbaum, and a group of other New York investors are expected to close on the 36-story office tower from a joint venture led by American Financial Realty Trust (NYSE:AFR) and an affiliate of IPC US Income REIT by the end of this year or early 2007.
Fortis apparently set its sights on Boston following several high-profile Dallas deals where it agreed to pay about $280 million for the three-building, 1.4 million-square-foot office complex known as Galleria Office Towers in Dallas. Earlier in the year, Fortis teamed with Trimarchi Management, also from New York, on the nearly $100 million acquisition of two other Dallas office properties, Harwood Center and Saint Paul Place. It also invested in the $282.5 million purchase of JPMorgan International Plaza in Dallas.
The addition of State Street Financial Center will build out Fortis’ portfolio considerably. The privately held firm headed by CEO Jonathan Landau is controlled by the Louis Kestenbaum family. Fortis manages some 3 million square feet in commercial properties and about 454 residential units.
American Financial, a Jenkintown, PA, REIT decided to formally shop the 36-story tower in the last couple of months. The company is pruning its portfolio and repositioning itself. The REIT paid $705.4 million or $688.84 per square foot in February 2004 to acquire the property. Later that year, it sold a 30% stake to an affiliate of Canadian REIT IPC US Real Estate Investment Trust, for $60.3 million.
The building is fully leased with triple A credit tenant State Street Corp. occupying most of the building under a lease that runs until 2023. State Street also leases the property’s 900-space garage on a 20-year triple-net lease.